My apologies for the below vent but I am looking for some sort of advice here.
A "friend" of mine whom I am currently questioning our friendship over last nights little exchange is really frustrating me.
I am new to light sabering, I have done some stunt choreography and I was in fencing years ago so I know the basics as doe my "friend".
Well my friend cannot lose and it's getting quite frustrating. We both agreed to do some of the basics Form I moves and positions at about 50% ... As soon as he feels as though I got a slight upper hand even in slow deliberate 50% sparring he turns on the jets and all ideas of sticking to Form I go out the window. Someone gets hurt there is yelling and demands to stop and that is usually me doing the yelling.
Well last night we had our protective gear on and we were doing pretty good at keeping to about 75% I then stepped out and got a point contact on his thigh. This of course angered him and he started to face off with me in a fencing stance and kept thrusting and approaching which turned into a full contact swinging match.
I was just blocking all of his incoming strikes as he was going to town on my blade.
I asked him to stop and he kept going at it, he made contact with the under side of my mask and hit my chin / throat area really hard.
So I struck high for him to block dropped my saber and took him down with a double leg take down and then applied a triangle body lock and threatened to choke him out.
The guy wouldn't stop and kept swinging harde and harder so I panicked.
Well this exchanged turned into him screaming trying to bite me ( that was new ) and him striking me with his fists in the side of my head. So I applied applied the choke and then let go to warn him. I let go and he stood up and squares off with me.
Needles to say we didn't talk much after that ...
So my question is - how the heck do you deal with someone who keeps going harder and harder when you agreed on 50%
This guy is nuts and super overly competitive but otherwise a good friend when not in any sort of competition ... Kinda sucks losing a friend but I'm not sure if we can get past a bruised throat, cut eye and contusions on the side of our faces ...
I echo what Lucien said. don't spar with him. He can't handle it.
Second: what type of gear are you using that still allows you to get a bruised throat cut eye, and contusions on the side of your faces? A fencing mask can do away with all of that. It seems that you need to use better gear too. A fire balling mad man depends on pain and the fear of it. If everyone is in full gear no pain or injury, their advantage disappears.
For me, if some one is going too hard (as is the case with most beginners) I just parry strike until they get the picture they wont get anywhere with that strategy. But you have to make the hit too. Throwing on a choke hold after the emotions are already high does nothing but aggrivate the situation.
More gear. Your head face should be completely protected.