Venting.

[Landen Se-Sentien]

You wouldn't happen to be a Nuc Tech in Kansas would ya? Cuz that's about what that coworker was mad at me about. I didn't always understand his advice, and it often didn't apply to my real problem. His way and my understanding didn't fit. I respected him, so I asked how he saw things. It helped me understand sometimes. But, I couldn't always complete his way even when I tried. I don't know your specific situation, so I don't mean to say you don't have right to frustration in it. "Ask-hole" just tapped that memory of my experience where I was not treated fairly when he let his hang ups hurt me. Regardless of whether or not he liked the way I did things, we needed to work together. Act like a grown up. I didn't try to control him. He shouldn't be upset when I don't go out of my way to be controlled by him. I made a lot of adaptations he apparently didn't register, even when things fell apart when I wasn't there. I'm good at solving problems for other people. Forming plans that don't require others to think about it is an ability I discovered after becoming a professional. I'm not good at following advice when I don't understand things the same way as others. I'm just too human that way.

Nope. That's not me. I'm a teacher.

[Obese Wan Kenobese]

I didn't actually think your were him. I left off the intended  after my sentence.

[Landen Se-Sentien]

I didn't actually think your were him. I left off the intended  after my sentence.

I know.

[Noctis]

I feel that pain, but I've been on the other side too often when it's not fair.

Valuing your opinion doesn't mean bowing to your every word. It's not always possible to take other's advice.

My roommate in college almost never followed my advice right. He'd get it all backwards and blame me when it failed.

A coworker almost never understood my problem, so his advice neither applied nor worked. He held a grudge for exactly this. Yet, he told me I was the only one he could talk to about religion, because I was the only one who listened to him without forcing my way on him. Hypocrite.

Be a friend.   Listen.   Offer understanding and new ways to look at things.   Let your friend make choices.  

Or don't take my advice.   I'm trying to help, not invalidate.

Speaking of "you" in the collective here . . .

If you know in advance that you are not going to take or consider the advice offered, do everyone involved a favor and don't ask for it.  It's completely different if you ask for an opinion and find that the opinion does not suit you.  But to REPEATEDLY ask, knowing the answer and knowing you intend to discard it?  What are you doing, man.  Stop that crap.  Go find the solution yourself and quit bothering your friends about it.  It doesn't mean someone is being a bad friend if they say, "Listen, you've repeatedly asked for my thoughts on this and I've told you what they are.  I'm not telling you again."  

Wanting to vent to a friend is different.  Asking them repeatedly, "What should I do about this thing?" and then treating that person's time as if it disposable and a waste of your own is unacceptable and inconsiderate.  And yes, I WILL have a problem with being treated that way and I'm 100% entitled to be annoyed.  Anyone else is also entitled to be annoyed with this kind of nonsense.   

[KraytDragonPearl]

Speaking of "you" in the collective here . . .

If you know in advance that you are not going to take or consider the advice offered, do everyone involved a favor and don't ask for it.  It's completely different if you ask for an opinion and find that the opinion does not suit you.  But to REPEATEDLY ask, knowing the answer and knowing you intend to discard it?  What are you doing, man.  Stop that crap.  Go find the solution yourself and quit bothering your friends about it.  It doesn't mean someone is being a bad friend if they say, "Listen, you've repeatedly asked for my thoughts on this and I've told you what they are.  I'm not telling you again."  

Wanting to vent to a friend is different.  Asking them repeatedly, "What should I do about this thing?" and then treating that person's time as if it disposable and a waste of your own is unacceptable and inconsiderate.  And yes, I WILL have a problem with being treated that way and I'm 100% entitled to be annoyed.  Anyone else is also entitled to be annoyed with this kind of nonsense.   

I totally agree!!!!  I have had this happen many times, especially as a cop.

[Darth Tepes]

Do young people now just have no sense of how to behave in public?   I went to the book store today (to pick up the Ahsoka novel) and decided to peruse the Fantasy section.  When I got there 5 college age people  were sprawled out on the floor blocking the section ......   Books, bookbags, papers etc all over floor.  T o make it worse a few employees walked past and said nothing!  Luckily they got up and left before my ire reached critical.  But as I went around the store I noticed more people just sitting on the floor chit chatting or reading..and not like a quick peruse to see if they wanted it....they were treating it as a library.  Just when I thought it couldn't be worse I stopped into the starbucks in the store and people had just brought books from the shelves to read with no intention of buying them. 

[Noctis]

Do young people now just have no sense of how to behave in public?   I went to the book store today (to pick up the Ahsoka novel) and decided to peruse the Fantasy section.  When I got there 5 college age people  were sprawled out on the floor blocking the section ......   Books, bookbags, papers etc all over floor.  T o make it worse a few employees walked past and said nothing!  Luckily they got up and left before my ire reached critical.  But as I went around the store I noticed more people just sitting on the floor chit chatting or reading..and not like a quick peruse to see if they wanted it....they were treating it as a library.  Just when I thought it couldn't be worse I stopped into the starbucks in the store and people had just brought books from the shelves to read with no intention of buying them.  

Ugh, crap like that enrages me!  This is a similar example, but perhaps a bit more extreme.  I went to the local supermarket here and these two teenage boys were taking turns pushing each other in a basket and generally being loud, obnoxious, and making a scene.  They actually bumped the back of my ankle (I had on sandals) and when I turned around and snapped at them to watch what the hell they were doing, they acted like I was the most offensive person on the planet.  And the employees did NOTHING until I went to the front and complained about it.

Listen, I'm all for having fun, but don't be a nuisance.  And DO NOT keep my from my Arctic Zero, because I will end you.

[Darth Tepes]

Ugh, crap like that enrages me!  This is a similar example, but perhaps a bit more extreme.  I went to the local supermarket here and these two teenage boys were taking turns pushing each other in a basket and generally being loud, obnoxious, and making a scene.  They actually bumped the back of my ankle (I had on sandals) and when I turned around and snapped at them to watch what the hell they were doing, they acted like I was the most offensive person on the planet.  And the employees did NOTHING until I went to the front and complained about it.

Listen, I'm all for having fun, but don't be a nuisance.  And DO NOT keep my from my Arctic Zero, because I will end you.

Exactly.  I did (and do) a lot of crazy things for fun...but never where it will interfere with other people.

[Majobu5]

I think alot of people are not confrontational, and its not bad, but show some problem solving communicational skills.
Slobs on the floor on the bookstore: get your A$$ up and find a goddam table. Teen tards: stop trying so hard to make a scene, and go somewhere else and live. The oil change place I go to is right by a middle school and I was there 2 weeks ago at the time they got out. All these kids coming by and yelling, making noise, laughing, acting immature, girls giggling, boys pushing each other.. I told the guy "is this what you gotta deal with daily?" He rolled his eyes in disgust; says it's worse some days. When I was that age, I was afraid I was gonna get chewed out, didn't even wanna look in an adult's direction. Different times, different parenting.
And on that note, we went to a trampoline place yesterday..kids party place, for my cousin's son's bday party. My son couldn't jump cuz his broken arm, but the other kids at the party! Holy hell! Like they've been raised by imbeciles! Screaming at the top of their lungs cuz the pizza showed up, sticking their fingers in the cake. Temper tantrums. I'm not the best parent, but my kids were even like WTF!!! My oldest was like "these kids are crazy".
And one more, on the same-ish topic. What ever happened to normal names? John, Michael, Matthew, Nick.. no, it's a bunch of Skylars, Braydens, Ryker... And the girls, pobrecitas.. the lame moms name them anything they think is beautiful, and its always almost awful. Midnight.....yeah, what's her shortened name, Midnie??

[Darth Tepes]

I think alot of people are not confrontational, and its not bad, but show some problem solving communicational skills.
Slobs on the floor on the bookstore: get your A$$ up and find a goddam table. Teen tards: stop trying so hard to make a scene, and go somewhere else and live. The oil change place I go to is right by a middle school and I was there 2 weeks ago at the time they got out. All these kids coming by and yelling, making noise, laughing, acting immature, girls giggling, boys pushing each other.. I told the guy "is this what you gotta deal with daily?" He rolled his eyes in disgust; says it's worse some days. When I was that age, I was afraid I was gonna get chewed out, didn't even wanna look in an adult's direction. Different times, different parenting.
And on that note, we went to a trampoline place yesterday..kids party place, for my cousin's son's bday party. My son couldn't jump cuz his broken arm, but the other kids at the party! Holy hell! Like they've been raised by imbeciles! Screaming at the top of their lungs cuz the pizza showed up, sticking their fingers in the cake. Temper tantrums. I'm not the best parent, but my kids were even like WTF!!! My oldest was like "these kids are crazy".
And one more, on the same-ish topic. What ever happened to normal names? John, Michael, Matthew, Nick.. no, it's a bunch of Skylars, Braydens, Ryker... And the girls, pobrecitas.. the lame moms name them anything they think is beautiful, and its always almost awful. Midnight.....yeah, what's her shortened name, Midnie??

Eh, I'm fine with non "normal" names... I mean look what our ancestors names were like.  Caveat though, as long as it has SOME kind of meaning either by origin or personal (named after someone close).

[Majobu5]

Eh, I'm fine with non "normal" names... I mean look what our ancestors names were like.  Caveat though, as long as it has SOME kind of meaning either by origin or personal (named after someone close).

It's the trying to hard to be unique that gets me. And spell it right!

[Obese Wan Kenobese]

I zeroed you out, Jobu.  

Oop, reminded myself of this.

[Landen Se-Sentien]

It's the trying to hard to be unique that gets me. And spell it right!

On the names front:

For a good kaugh, Google "George Carlin goofy boy names." I won't post it here, because it is definitely NSFW language, but it's hilarious.

And then there's this one, because it hits really close to home for me, being a teacher who works inner city. A little bit of language, so be careful. They have a few of these

<a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Dd7FixvoKBw" target="_blank" class="aeva_link bbc_link new_win">http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Dd7FixvoKBw</a>

And this one, too. No language, and it's part of a series as well.

<a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gODZzSOelss" target="_blank" class="aeva_link bbc_link new_win">http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gODZzSOelss</a>

[Master Seblaise]

I came one hour EARLIER for a lecture today .... Wake up one hour earlier than needed .... ARGHHHH 

[Majobu5]

I zeroed you out, Jobu.  

Oop, reminded myself of this.

Whoa! That thing is disgusting!! Lol