Venting.

[Obese Wan Kenobese]

How often did you, a dude, have been hit by a girl unwanted? Or have been touched by a girl unwanted? How often did you, a dude, have been hit by another dude unwanted? Or have been touched by a dude unwanted? Several times a year? If so, man, that's hard: welcome to my world as a woman. If not? Go figure.

That reminds me. I work in imaging. I've never had a male coworker comment on a female patient's body on the screen. As a student, a woman went on and on about a patient's penis size on the screen. I was glad when she failed the program. There's no place for a woman like her in health care. Get it together. Patients are there for treatment. They deserve respect. Women are particularly subjected to embarrassing exposure for all sorts of exams, but I've never heard such comments from the men I've worked with as what I heard from her. I heard it from 13 year old boys when I was one, but this was a grown woman.

All the disrespectful things people think and say go both ways. When you've been done wrong, your frustration is valid, and you have a right to speak up.

[Noctis]

I seem to have started a ruckus....

Look, there are bad people regardless of gender. Fact. But here's the thing, I only just made the transition to regularly presenting female in public, and already I've two incidents this month that were actually scary. There was an earlier one that was probably the absolute scariest and most unsettling thing. v

A friend of mine has a soon to be ex-husband who is a bit of a loose canon, very unstable, jealous, controlling, and downright abusive(not typically physically). Basically he's a piece of shell. A couple of weeks back she walked out on him with the kids, and another friend and I ran to pick her up. We stopped at a grocery store and she sent me in to get some cold medicine and drinks for the kids. While I was in there, he came to the store and tried to get her in his car, but she managed to get back in our car and leave, but he chased her back to our friend's community, luckily a gated one that prevented him from perusing any further. Well he came back to the grocery store as I was waiting for my friends to return for me(I was on the phone for the incident prior), as soon as he saw me, the look on his face was not a kind one. He parked outside the exit trying to trap me inside, but I was able to sneak out the entrance door and get to a gas station across the street, so I got away, but that 15 minutes until they got me felt like hours.

This guy knows about me. He knows I'm not biologically female, and he gets jealous even when she hangs out with OTHER BIOLOGICAL FEMALES. (He told my friend something like "I thought the tranny was a real girl until he opened his mouth." after the only time I met him, so yeah do with that what you will.) He's also way bigger than me, isn't a girl, has mental issues, and is in the "Brooke's technically a dude" camp, so I was pretty damn scared. I'd have little hope of defending myself, beyond screaming(which is the one vocal range I'm still pretty clearly male in which lessens the chance of people helping me out), if I wasn't at a busy supermarket, who knows.

Then this guy leaning into my own vehicle, not a month later, and trying to hit on me? Let's just say I'm woke now. I heard the stories and like some of you guys I was like "yeah it sucks but..." then I lived that crap. And I haven't seen the worst of it yet I'm sure.

Yeah, it's a gender problem.

Holy crap, that's scary as hell!!  I'm so sorry you had to come into this knowledge this way.  

And I don't think you started a ruckus.  You started a discussion.  Most of the people I've spoken to here have opinions that I may or may not agree with, but no one (except one person) has been rude to me.  But I can ignore that person.  Because of their attitude towards me and others, I do not consider their opinion viable or valuable.  Bye, Felipe.

However, this is the bottom line with this kind of thing, in my opinion and experience.  It's WAY more socially acceptable for men to act this way towards women and get away with it.  It's MUCH more common for women to be assaulted, cat-called, or receive unwanted advances.  I do not know a single female friend of mine that hasn't experienced it not once, but an ungodly amount of times in her life.  Do men get this crap from women also?  You bet they do.  It absolutely happens.  Every seen the movie "Disclosure?"  Yeah, that happens.  But you can't kriffing sit here and tell me it's "not a gender thing" when the evidence of these kinds of incidents leans HEAVILY towards one sex or gender.  So yes, in that case?  SOCIETY made it okay for this to happen.  It's also not personal to ANY man here.  Do I think all men do this?  Hell no.  Absolutely freakin' not.  I know plenty of decent men who would never even joke about this kind of thing.  So, don't get your boxers in a twist, fellas.  If you're not a part of the problem?  Be a part of the solution.  

And you had better believe if I see a woman doing this crap to a man that I will call her ass out on it and make her stop.  I've got your back, guys.  All I ask in return is that you have mine, too.

P.S. If you wanna move on from this topic?  FIREWORKS.  I HATE THEM.  They've been popping them here for 3 days and I'm like jflasdfkjlasdkhfds.  STOP IT.

[Landen Se-Sentien]

I love fireworks on the holiday. I tolerate them before 9 p.m. a couple days before and after a major holiday. Outside of that all they do is annoy me. I didn't care one way or another before I had kids.

[Noctis]

I love fireworks on the holiday. I tolerate them before 9 p.m. a couple days before and after a major holiday. Outside of that all they do is annoy me. I didn't care one way or another before I had kids.

That's exactly how I feel!  We're outside of the city limits here, so they can pop them whenever they want . . . and they freakin' do.     I'm fine with it until I have to go to bed.  Seriously, when it gets to be 10pm, that crap needs to stop. 

[Master Seblaise]

Holy crap, that's scary as hell!!  I'm so sorry you had to come into this knowledge this way.  

And I don't think you started a ruckus.  You started a discussion.  Most of the people I've spoken to here have opinions that I may or may not agree with, but no one (except one person) has been rude to me.  But I can ignore that person.  Because of their attitude towards me and others, I do not consider their opinion viable or valuable.  Bye, Felipe.

However, this is the bottom line with this kind of thing, in my opinion and experience.  It's WAY more socially acceptable for men to act this way towards women and get away with it.  It's MUCH more common for women to be assaulted, cat-called, or receive unwanted advances.  I do not know a single female friend of mine that hasn't experienced it not once, but an ungodly amount of times in her life.  Do men get this crap from women also?  You bet they do.  It absolutely happens.  Every seen the movie "Disclosure?"  Yeah, that happens.  But you can't kriffing sit here and tell me it's "not a gender thing" when the evidence of these kinds of incidents leans HEAVILY towards one sex or gender.  So yes, in that case?  SOCIETY made it okay for this to happen.  It's also not personal to ANY man here.  Do I think all men do this?  Hell no.  Absolutely freakin' not.  I know plenty of decent men who would never even joke about this kind of thing.  So, don't get your boxers in a twist, fellas.  If you're not a part of the problem?  Be a part of the solution.  

And you had better believe if I see a woman doing this crap to a man that I will call her ass out on it and make her stop.  I've got your back, guys.  All I ask in return is that you have mine, too.

P.S. If you wanna move on from this topic?  FIREWORKS.  I HATE THEM.  They've been popping them here for 3 days and I'm like jflasdfkjlasdkhfds.  STOP IT.

Almost 19:00 here and night is dark and black .... Fireworks already start but there are 100 km/h winds because of Carmen, the first storm of the year ...

Yes, you read it, fireworks and high speed winds ... wonderful how people can be intelligent ...



@TJ: I read your story ... sad, very sad ... I really hope that society will change (and not only because i have two daughters) but I really think that it is changing as now girls are not afraid to speak any more ...

Considering domestic violences, i do not know for the US but here, the number violences of men on women are 5 times the number of violences of women on men ...

[DarthScrub]

I live in the suburbs so I cant light off the fireworks I have QQ

[ThreadJack]

Almost 19:00 here and night is dark and black .... Fireworks already start but there are 100 km/h winds because of Carmen, the first storm of the year ...

Yes, you read it, fireworks and high speed winds ... wonderful how people can be intelligent ...



@TJ: I read your story ... sad, very sad ... I really hope that society will change (and not only because i have two daughters) but I really think that it is changing as now girls are not afraid to speak any more ...

Considering domestic violences, i do not know for the US but here, the number violences of men on women are 5 times the number of violences of women on men ...

I do believe it is changing for the better. It seems like it’s getting less and less taboo to speak out, though I still see far too much victim blaming, or rather well meaning individuals whose comments come off as such. “Learn to protect yourself” or “carry a gun and this won’t happen.” Yes you are right, that would certainly go a long way to help but now is not the time.

Also the numbers here are very similar. That’s why I hate when people scream “it happens to men too but nobody ever talks about it!” Come on dude, everyone with half a brain cell knows that it can and does happen to men. But even without looking at statistics, I’ve only known one or two males that come to mind that have actually been in an abusive relationship (as the abused, I don’t associate with abusers if I can help it), whereas it’s a near universal experience between my female friends and coworkers to have been in at least one relationship that was in some way abusisive and to some degree. And not all were necessarily romantic either. And it’s 9 times out of 10 a male abuser, though yes woman on woman can also occur and does. But like above this is not the time to play “me too” like a 4 year old. You are more than welcome to start your own discussion another time and place, but no need to hijack this one.

[tx_tuff]

So it just went from most men are sexiest to most men are abusive. Wow.

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[DarthScrub]

I think the thread would benefit from moving forward to a different topic, opinions have been stated and it's time for something different.

[tx_tuff]

I was all ready to finish a small project in my Archon today only to find out I didn't have the right tool I needed to get it done! So no finished product and no photos to share with the forum today

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[Landen Se-Sentien]

I think the thread would benefit from moving forward to a different topic, opinions have been stated and it's time for something different.

[Tzimho]

How about annoying and just plain idiotic?

[DarthScrub]

While I'm not a selfie taker and I think some people SHOULD put the phone down for a minute, people are gonna do what people are gonna do. lol The annoying one are those who take a pictures of someone taking a selfie to mock them, that's not cool. YOU DO YOU, BOO BOO

[Taegin Roan]

I love fireworks on the holiday. I tolerate them before 9 p.m. a couple days before and after a major holiday. Outside of that all they do is annoy me. I didn't care one way or another before I had kids.

About how I feel. If they are going off while I am sleeping (or trying to sleep), I hate them.

[Noctis]

I don't have an issue with selfies?  Never have.  I think they're funny myself and hey, if someone wants to document their life that way, who am I to get in their face about it? 

However, if you're holding someone up by taking a selfie, you can kriff right off.  Get out of my way.