KROQ, in Los Angeles
Why have I heard those call letters before?
My coworker decided he wanted to get healthy, so we sat down and figured out the best eating plan for him. It took some trial and error, but he's really happy with his results and how he feels and I am SUPER happy for him! However, some of my other coworkers seem to think it's "funny" to try and tempt him with all the foods he no longer eats. They put processed crap on his desk, purposefully come in eating something they know he loves and make a show of eating it in front of him, and constantly tease him about every little facet of his diet. They also think he can't possibly do this and keep telling him how they can't wait to see him fail and go back to eating "just like everyone else."
WTF, I'm going to strangle them. He's already seeing massive improvements in not only his weight, but his mental and physical health, too. Who the hell do they think they are, anyway? They don't screw with me and the way I eat because they know better than to try that crap with me, so why are they doing it to him? When I call them out on it, they get all butthurt and say they are "just teasing." No, they're not "just teasing." They're making it hard for my buddy to do his thing and I'm sick of it.
I've asked them nicely to knock it off, but I'm about to get ugly.
Yet another prime example of why I hate people. They see something good and positive in the world and they have to frell it up.
In practice I am not really good at sticking to one side or the other, but at work I get forced into being the "You effed up, now you are going to fix/pay for it or I will take a pound of flesh as restitution and fire you." assistant manager. So far I have been asked to fire three people in the six months I have been an assistant manager (Basically I just deliver the bad news), and I usually get to handle the children employees who can't get along.
Be that guy. Force people to be responsible for their actions. If the world actually held people accountable for their mistake/bullshell, there would be a lot fewer/less mistakes/bullshell.
You apparently work with some very ugly people. Why would you put someone down who is trying to better themselves? It's like the times I've seen people at gyms snickering at overweight people working out.
Quick and simple: They are too lazy and/or stupid to improve themselves, so they make themselves feel better by watching others fail.
Well, looks like my prediction about being single for the rest of my life is turning out to be true, much to my chagrin.
Y'know that gut-punched feeling you get when you start to like and care about a woman, and they reveal that they are in a relationship that isn't really a relationship that they know to be toxic, but they won't end it because the chemistry is intense AND despite knowing that it would be best for everyone involved?
Yeah...
I'm just... I'm just done.
Been there too many times. Then I finally got into a relationship. Now that that hasn't panned out like I had hoped I'm taking a lot of notes, particularly on myself in an effort to avoid those wrong types. It sucks, but rule #1 has become "If she's not interested, she's not worth my time. Move along." Just live by the repeated words of Kelly Clarkson: "What doesn't kill you, makes you stronger."
I plan to be. It just sucks like a black hole. I'm 40 years old, turning 41 in less than a month, and I'm tired of being alone.
I tried to convince myself that I'm happy alone, but I'm really not. I just want someone in my life, but there's nobody that would have me. And it hurts. It hurts terribly so, and there's nothing I can do to make it go away. I put on a brave face at work or when I'm out with friends, but I feel like it's just eating away at my insides, making me a hollow shell of a person.
Maybe I just don't deserve happiness. Maybe my own miserableness is a natural counterpoint for someone else's happiness.
If so, they must have a picture perfect relationship. The kind of relationship that the poets write about, because I am absolutely miserable.
I'd like to spout something really touching and insightful, but.............I got nothing. You and I seem to be in the same boat. Have you considered making 'geek' a prerequisite for candidacy for Jev's Girlfriend?
I've been there buddy, it's a dark place to be in. And it will get worse and worse if you let it. Just remember, you don't need someone else to make you complete or whole, you are a complete and whole person by yourself. I've known you a while now Jev, you're a funny guy. Girls tend to like funny guys (how I got some of the girls I've dated), so be optimistic. The last six girls I've tried to talk to have gotten me no where, but that hasn't stopped me. 50 "no's" and a "yes" is still a "yes".
It's just getting to that 'yes' isn't always easy to deal with. If memory serves, I think I can count on one hand the number of girls I've ever kissed.
Generally women still wait for the men to approach and make the first move...
I hate this. Women (most women) expect men to have the balls to make the first move, but if it mistakenly comes off as too aggressive he gets labeled as a creep. If he's persistent, then he's psycho with potential to be a stalker.
Been watching Gotham, and the one character that I related to the most, at least for a while, was Ed Nygma. Socially awkward intellect, sees a girl that in his eyes is the end-all be-all of womanly perfection, and he will not be dissuaded in his efforts. Sadly it didn't pan out as I'd hoped.
JM one thing I forgot, and this can go to anybody. Whenever you are thinking you have it bad just take a good hard look around you. No matter what somebody always have it worse then you do.
When it comes to matters of the heart, it is next to impossible to feel that anything could be worse. The heart does not reason out logic. It feels. And since it can't feel someone else's pain, it cannot understand it.
It's truly pathetic that, outside of work and coming here (and other places online), I truly have no life whatsoever. I go to work. I go home. I get online for a while. I go to bed. Lather. Rinse. Kriffing repeat.
I feel like I'm in a rut and don't know how to get out. None of the usual avenues appeal to me, as I hate people and crowds and am extremely, painfully shy and socially awkward (it took me well over six months to talk to people at work about things other than work).
You're not alone. I'm currently trying to train my dog to be exceptionally cute, so that she'll draw ladies in to start talking to me. I've met limited success.
